How Does Conscious Parenting Work? 

What comes up for us when we feel triggered? Why do we at times feel overwhelmed and at a loss when it comes to doing what’s ‘right’ for our kids in the moment? What are we left with when our ‘go-to’ strategies don’t work anymore?
In challenging moments, so often we think we are dealing with the situation that’s in front of us, but in reality we are more likely repeating or keeping an old belief system going that is instead shaping how we respond to what’s happening in the moment.
By using our everyday parenting experiences as opportunities to look more deeply into what’s going on for us on the inside, we develop greater self awareness. Looking within, we can start to see how we may have been projecting our own unresolved childhood wounds onto our kids, unconsciously.
Understanding how emotional legacies get passed down from one generation to the next helps us recognise when we too are enacting old patterns from our past and how deeply these (previously) unconscious loops re-play and impact the way we parent.
Once we become aware, we can disrupt these old patterns and belief systems that were created early on and break free of them. It takes courage and vulnerability for parents to ‘clean up our own stuff' so our kids absorb less of it.
This is where it all starts – when we courageous parents do the ‘inner work’ and learn how to recognise, regulate and connect with ourselves first, we can then grow the capacity to truly connect and attune to our kids – empowering them to live their lives with authenticity and growing into resilient, capable and compassionate adults. The best motivation!
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Want To Become A More Conscious Parent?

1:1 Coaching with me can offer you guidance, support and encouragement around;
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Understanding your goals and decluttering the emotional obstacles in the way.
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Outlining patterns & empowering your own continued awareness and growth.
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Discovering alternative methods to traditional discipline.
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Learning how to connect more and control less.
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Achieving a sense of lightness and joy in parenting.
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Trusting how you are showing up as a parent.
We can embark on an empowering journey to uncover your true authentic self. I'd love to hear from you.

Frequently Asked Questions

How is coaching different to therapy?

Coaching is not about counselling or healing a diagnosis – and while we do reflect on childhood experiences, this is through the lens of relevance to what is showing up in the now in your parenting journey. As a certified Conscious Parenting coach, I am here to usher and empower you towards your own healing and growth; identifying behavioural patterns and self limiting beliefs so we can find new ways to implement strategies for change. We do not diagnose, provide counselling or prescribe medications. A coach is not a mental health counsellor or medical professional .

Why does Conscious Parenting focus on the parent over the child?

It all starts with us parents developing our own self awareness. If we can’t notice where we are first, (ie: am I feeling dysregulated or overwhelmed, am I in fight, flight or freeze mode?) then it’s really challenging to try to help co-regulate or teach our child anything. So it’s up to us to start doing enough of own healing work first so we can get into GOOD ENOUGH parenting shape. This lets us show up as best we can for our kids.

Is discipline a part of Conscious Parenting?

For generations parenting has been about dominance, control and resistance. Through Conscious parenting we learn to shift this paradigm. We start to see how our need to ‘discipline’ our kids emerges from an inherent desire to control them and our environment. To be more conscious is to instead see the behaviour as a cue that the child needs something – and learning to connect to the need takes priority. To connect before we correct. It takes time, patience and deep awareness from the parent, but kids are less likely to act out when they can trust they’ll be understood and heard.

How long does it take to become a Conscious Parent?

This approach is a life-long practice we learn to embody to become ever more aware and present in each moment! Some patterns take years to form so it takes practice to explore this new way of thinking, being and responding. It’s worth it.

Is it only for parents?

No – it is not exclusive to parents! We have all had childhoods and we’ve all been parented, and our reactions and patterns can show up in ALL our relationships. This work is available for anyone with whom it resonates.

Am I ready for Conscious Parenting coaching?

If any of this resonates and you are open and curious to:

    • See your child as your teacher
    • Heal your own emotional wounds
    • Practice connection over correction
    • Recognise your own ego and it’s projections
    • Read Dr Shefali’s books – inc. The Parenting Map
    • Allow the unfolding of your child’s true self

then yes you are!

Contact me to arrange a complimentary 15 minute discovery call. 

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